Most of us want to find a suitable partner with whom
we can fall in love and ultimately share our lives. When we finally find that
special person and commit to a relationship, we want it to last forever.
However, unlike romantic novels and movies, not all stories have a happy ending
and all couples have to face the bumpy ride at some point. Sometimes, the
friends with whom we share our closest secrets and whose advice we seek while
facing a troubled relationship might become the cause of a sour relationship.
Seeking a friend’s advice on a relationship may not
be the best solution
Every couple is bound to have clashing opinions, as
being different individuals, there will be difference in opinion and
priorities. When things go out of hand and we do not find a solution, we depend
on our friends for advice. We fail to understand that we might end up with a
biased opinion, as our friend only gets to know our part of the story.
No
matter how consoling the advice may be, but it may act like sugar to a diabetic
person. We must first acknowledge that there is a problem and then make mutual
efforts towards solving it and should rely only on professional assistance if
need arises. Visiting a marriage counselor together is a better option, as the
he/ she gets to know the view of both the parties and can thus figure out a
solution.
Neglecting a relationship makes things worse
The foundation of a happy relationship is a healthy
friendship. Sometimes, however we do not understand that our partner can be our
best friend and some very happy moments can be created together by sharing in
each other’s passions and interests. Paint a canvas, read a book, bake and
decorate cookies together; there are ample fun activities which help us connect
better. But at times we prefer to spend
more time with our bunch of friends at a beer bar, baseball match or shopping
and may end up neglecting our partner. It is essential for all couples to spend
quality time together and be each other’s close friend.
Striking a healthy balance between relationship and
friendship
Friends hold an important place in everyone’s life
but you cannot afford to hurt a healthy relationship at the cost of friendship.
So there is a need to strike a balance between both. Your best friends may
sometimes cause hurt in if you fail to recognize that their advice in your
relationship may not be the best one and you need to exercise your own judgment
and take time out to understand your partner’s point of view.
A friendship, if it is too demanding may not be
worth keeping and sometimes you just need to draw the line. Realize that in a
relationship only the two of you can iron out the differences by putting your
egos aside and going past the surface level connection.
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